Thursday, July 28, 2011

Do you really love your locs?

This post is moreso my jotting down things that I need to be telling myself so bear with me here, okay? I know of a few ladies who also deal with with this and that inspired me to write a post about it.

What am I talking about, you ask?

I'm talking about people complimenting your locs and you responding with a "not so nice" comment. I know I can't be the only one that does this...

Yes. Yours truly, natural hair blogger and editor downplays her hair. I didn't even realize that I did it until a friend of mine brought it to my attention.

"Yo B," she says. "Every time I compliment your locs, you come back with some negative crap about it. What's with that? Don't you love your hair?"

Because I HATE to be wrong, I was thisclose to telling her off. But after giving it some thought I realized that...she's right. Every time someone says something nice about my hair, I usually follow back with one of the following:

-"Girl, it's getting too long and hot."
-"Pshhht, I need to wash it."
-"I'll probably cut it soon. It's just SO hot."
-"They're hot, man. "
"This length is not the business."
"Man, I hate that they're so hot."

Did you notice that 80% of the responses are of me complaining about how hot my hair is? True enough....this is the longest my hair has been in years and Florida's heat and humidity makes having longer long a bit unpleasant.

And it's not as if I don't know how to accept a compliment, because I do. I am not a woman that doesn't know her beauty. I do. I love receiving compliments as much as I love to dish them out. So why then do I have such a hard time accepting a compliment about my locs?

The short answer is I don't know. I can't say why I feel this way. A lot of love has gone into installing and growing my locs. My locs have enlightened me. My locs have inspired others. I really really love my locs. I'm quite attached to them. I've got to do a better job at receiving compliments. Being surrounded by positive energy is very important. Just how can I expect my locs to flourish if I'm talking so badly about them.

That changes. I will speak and think only positive thoughts about my locs. I encourage y'all to do the same. Even if you're 7-month old locs still don't look the way you want them too. Even if your 3-month old buds are fuzzier than you like. Speak positivity to your crown. And accept positivity too.