Monday, April 13, 2009


Yep....that's what my older sister said to me when she found out I was loc'ing.

I call Rae my older sister because up until I was 12 years old I really thought that she WAS indeed my sister. NOT! She just happened to be a baby sitter that was always around. She means so much to me. After all, she kinda helped raised me.

And as much as I love her.....I had to not let her words bother me.

"I don't like locs or weaves and I don't think they look good on anyone."

Damn.....that's harsh. Especially considering that a great deal of Black women rock one or the other. She told me that she thought that locs always looked dirty.

So I sent her this video.

Listen to the lyrics of the song...
"Be Natural"
-Fertile Ground

My locs are beautiful and unique.
And I don't expect everyone to understand.
But I DO expect those close to me to respect that.
I know that natural hair/locs ain't for everybody.....and Lord knows I'm not trying to get everyone to go natural but to say, "Ew locs...." is beyond insulting.

Good thing I've got some thick skin. I kindly told my sister that it was ridiculous to make such a general assessment. And I sent her to a few natural hair websites. When people make ignorant comments like this, the best thing to do is educate them. Even when you want to curse them out.

See...having natural hair sometimes means that you have to defend something that really should need NO explanation; your natural hair.

Sometimes I have to FORCE myself to have an open mind when it comes to Black hair. As much as the lye and weaves annoy me, I really don't want to become too judgmental. Ironically some permies don't hesitate to judge my beautiful curls, naps and locs.

*tisk tisk*

Do I think I'm better than anyone because I rock natural hair?
Hell no.

Do I think it's pretty cool that my hair can naturally loc?
Hell yes.

Happy 4 Months, coming soon.

Peace and loc've.


Bsquared86 said...

"See...having natural hair sometimes means that you have to defend something that really should need NO explanation; your natural hair."

That's it right there!

The one thing that drove/drives me crazy is the constant QUESTIONING! Everybody wants a REASON why I rocked my loose naps and why I'm loc'ing. And all I can say is, "Because I want to." lol

Knaps said...

I think some people just don't understand what they dont know. Locs are sooooo pretty!!

Amina said...

this video is just priceless!!
thank you for sharing :)

Memeeflye said...

To quote Mos Def- "I give a damn if any man recall my legacy- I'm trying to live life in the sight of God's memory..."

LovelyBella73 said...

Love Fertile Ground! I've been listening to them for years! And, girl you know how this goes.. you and your locs are so beautiful. Don't let those remarks dampen your spirit. It's a fact, people don't like what they don't know.

"Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore."

Samantha Sophia said...

An older sister...I was confused for a moment. It happens I have friends that kept asking me why I want sister locs, when they are so permanent. FYI locs are as permanent as relaxers, I told them, either way you have to cut them to get rid of them.

Wes said...

I often find that people reject that which they don't understand, otherwise known as being "ignorant". What you did was commendable- The best way to combat ignorance is with education.

Ashleyann said...

In my opinion, you get more hairstyles from natural hair than with perms. Most women wear it flat or flipped up at the ends. You get more volume with curls, so why waist time in straightening first, then curling it right after?