Who cares if you have a perm? I don't.

*throwback! My teacher's photo when I was in L.A.
I came in on the weekend and didn't expect to take a photo.
Why is my hair so high? LMAO!*

A friend of mine popped off on me the other day. It was in reference to my Facebook status in which I talked about needing a few ladies with various hair types to answer a few questions regarding "good hair".

My friend sends me a message and says,

"The Natural Hair Extraordinaire" is at it again!

I respond with

"Uh...."

She then goes into some tirade about how irritated she is with natural folx always trying to make everyone else who is not natural feel bad. She said she loves the perm and has no intentions of ever going natural.

First of all---if YOU feel bad about not having natural hair, that's between YOU and YOUR insecurities. This may come as shock but I DON'T CARE. Really, it's true. I am natural and I will always be natural. I could care less if the chick next to me, my best friend or even my Mom wear natural hair. I take pride in my natural hair but I am not on some attempt to make everyone go natural. Is it possible for me to show pride in MY hair without YOU getting offended?

Is there division between naturals and permies? I think so. I think we are all responsible for it. And it's so silly. Yes, I'm sure there are some naturals that judge people who perm their hair. And there are permies who judge naturals thinking that we are all some afrocentric "power to the people" monolithic group?

Wrong wrong wrong.

Permies need to understand this----just because a sista takes pride in her natural hair, it does not mean she thinks you too should go natural. I'd rather attempt to bring about world peace than "make all Black women go natural". I think it would be fantastic if Black women accepted their natural beauty but if they don't.....life will move on. We have bigger issues to deal with in the Black community. I'm more concerned about us owning these hair shops we spend a crap load of dollars in.

I am not "better" because I have natural hair. And you aren't better because you live a lye.

I'm soooo kidding about that one. It's just a joke. But really...lighten up, people. I'm natural and natural I will stay. I love Black hair....the history, the stories, the struggle, the ideas, the perception. I love ladies who can rock a mean wrap. I love little brown girls with candy curls. I think it's amazing what a flat iron can do. Creating styles and maintaining Black hair is an art. I'm amazed by it really.

But I'm not amazed by weaves. I'm sorry....it just bothers me. But again, that's my prerogative .

Sista, I don't really care if you have a perm.

Do.
You.