By now I'm sure most of y'all have heard about Jill Scott "supposedly" rocking a relaxed do at an event that she went to. I say "supposedly" because how in the world are we supposed to know what's going up in her head? Who's to say she didn't straighten it? Or blow it out?
Honestly, the whole online uproar really bothers me. A lot of times us naturals claim to represent freedom and self-expression but we are quick to judge someone who decided to relax their natural hair, or go with THIS loc'ing method instead of THAT one. We feel "sad" if a former loc rocker has decided to comb out or cut off their locs. I wonder why as naturals, we feel so attached to the roots of other naturals'.
I say "we" because I remember wanting to shed a tear when my locspiration and friend Shawnta combed out her locs. I felt the same way when Fauryn78 on YouTube did the exact same thing. But why? I didn't know what was going on the personal lives of these ladies. As with anything in life, sometimes you just want change. And if it happens to be your crown, who are we to judge? Or more importantly, care?
I wish that us naturals would stop it with the superiority complex. Y'all know what I'm talking about! As much as I take pride in natural hair, oftentimes, we can be downright clique-ish. I've heard of ladies only wanting natural heads in their bridal parties to hearing comments from friends who dog out sistas wearing relaxed hair. It's ridiculously over the top and deepens that division that Black women can have.
I'm over it. I will ALWAYS rock natural hair but I could care less who doesn't. We are not a cult of diehard members. We are not a separate and exclusive group of Black femininity. We are simply a group of women who wear our hair naturally. And that's it. Let's take pride in it but let's not judge those who do not do the same. While at times, I like to think that natural hair can be a lifestyle, it's times like this when I think it is just...hair.
So Jill Scott, I don't really care how you wear your hair. I just know that you are one of the most talented artists ever. And your hair did not make or break it for you.
To my afro wearing ladies, you are beautiful.
To my loc'd divas, you are beautiful.
To my straight hair naturals, you are beautiful.
To my curly heads, you are beautiful.
To my naturally straight haired chicks, you are beautiful.
To my relaxed mamas, you are beautiful.
To my weave/wig wearin' sistas, you are beautiful.
To my transitioners, you are beautiful.
To my "I don't know what's going on with my hair" chicas, you are beautiful.