Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Men Who Love Women With Natural Hair


Um, wow...I don't think this needs much explanation. I think it's refreshing and beautiful. Not that we need a man's approval, but let's face it...when a man can genuinely and respectfully appreciate your appearance, um...wow.  Hit the screenshot to visit the site.

When I first transitioned and went natural my then boyfriend hated it. He would make comments like, "You were prettier with longer hair." Kinda messed up, uh? I remember crying over it a few times. I hated that I let him or anyone define my beauty for me.

Have any of y'all ever dated or been with guys that weren't digging your natural hair?

15 comments:

Alana said...

yea. My last boyfriend didnt like my hair at all. He only liked it if it was straight.But he still supported me even though he didnt like it. I guess that was good

Alana said...

oh... and its the funniest thing because he started getting locs during the last part of our relationship. I thought that was so weird.

jazzyjayda said...

Actually I've never experience a guy that didn't like my natural (I don't date much anyway so that's probably why lol). I started wearing my hair natural in 2005 when I was in high school. I thought I would get picked on by guys, but actually the response was quite the opposite. I met my ex boyfriend with my natural hair and he LOVES women with natural hair (his favorite natural is Tracy Ellis Ross). I told him I wanted to loc and he was rooting for me to do it. Maybe one day I'll come across that one guy that doesn't like it but for now I can't say I've experienced that.

Boogie said...

Thanks for the website!

I had this one guy ask me once, "Why do women do that?"..needless to say, he lost points with me because that statement alone was no different than if he had said, "Hey, I'm just a superficial jerk!".

rmcandlelight said...

My daughters hubby doesn't really care for natural hair. But she still wears her natural hair and he doesn't tell her what to do or he doesn't make her feel bad. Just to please him every once in a while she will put on a long straight pony tail and he is satisfied with that.

NESSessary said...

yeah, sadly i have. but he also had the same negative, snooty attitude when i wasn't natural as well. no matter what style i did or how i wore my hair, there was always something "wrong" with my hair in his eyes. It wasn't so much that he preferred my hair long, short, natural, permed, etc., but he seemed to always have a negative attitude in general and only pretended that he liked my hair instead of just saying it looks nice or beautiful. I also hated how he always told me when I needed "to get my hair done" or "get my roots retwisted"...and I always tore him off for it, because i didn't go around telling him that he needs to get HIS hair done. I've broken up with him (not because he didn't like my hair, but for other reasons too), and ever since have decided to never let a man's opinion of my appearance affect me.

robinc said...

Guys who knew me before I started to lock, don't get me with locks. My current friend knew me before locks and prefers me with a perm. He tries to like me with locks...needless to say, we won't make it past the friendship ;)

Felicia said...

I'm a newbie my babies are 4 months old. My boyfriend loved my long permed hair and loved my hair even more when I went natural.He was proud of my afro and even more excited about my loc's.

Zenzele said...

I've been natural for 23 years. It's not an issue.

Natasha Vincent, Crazy about personal care! said...

I've never bothered to ask and none of my partners have said anything other than one who wanted "long hair this" and "long hair that"

After more than a decade with locs, I don't think folks would recognize me with any other kind of hair!

Shantana said...

funny, I been off and on with straight, and braiding, twisting since 2003. and the one hairstyle my husband didn't like was when I got my weave! locs is in his top 3hairstyles for women. when i told him I wanted locs at first he wasn't convinced not bc he didn't like them just bc he wasn't sure how i would look with them. and once i got my loc extensions he fell in love with them. and now he's excited to see me with just my locs no extensions...he loves my natuarl hair but more important me he loves me and for that im thankful.

SMOOCHES BABY said...

My last boyfriend would have hated my natural. He loved long and straight hair. My current love adores it. Although, he was perm-courious about me. lol So, I put on a wig. He loved it. He feel that locs/natural give me a rebel look while the perm gives me sensitivity. But he loves the person and not the hair attached.

LaKisha said...

My ex-husband didn't like the fact that I started locing my hair. He preferred my loose natural hair and two strand twists. Needless to say, I did not let his thoughts about MY hair affect my decision to loc my hair. I have been loced for almost 15 months and it is one of the best decisions I have made in regards to my hair.

CurlyNuGrowth said...

I've been there, when I first went natural, my then boyfriend didn't like it... needless to say he's been cut, now he's begging to come back..funny how that works lol. Don't ever let a man define you, if he doesn't accept you for who you want to be, he isn't worth it. Period. Thanks for sharing!

Charles said...

Men who don't respect you ladies for who you are don't deserve your time. I love ladies with their natural hair, and if they choose to have a different style, that's up to them. Beauty is NOT defined in one way. I love your blog, and how you're helping others enjoy their natural hair. :)